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AN ADVENTUROUS WIFE IS A RECIPE FOR A LONG MARRIAGE BUT AN AVENTUROUS HUSBAND CAN BE DISASTROUS


When one partner is very active and the other passive, relationship strife may ensue but it is according to which one is active. The active partner may appear more animated and energized which entails meeting other energized people. While this is not a gender specific dynamic, I have found that the active partner tends to be the woman in a long marriage. Of all the marriages that are in our circle that are coming up on their 38th year or more I realize that the common denominator among the marriages are active wives and settled husbands.

Now a settled husband doesn't mean he is a Couch potato but in most cases he is not the one in the clubs or away from home or willing to take risks or try out new methods, ideas, or experiences without you. For all the failing marriages I know, I have keyed in on one thing, and that is there being an adventurous husband. An adventurous wife is usually not an issue because she is usually fulfilling a void within herself that is not being fulfilled by the settled husband that more often has to do with traveling or get-aways. Which it is not necessarily bad although it can be when it turns into a festering, (a negative feeling or a problem) becoming worse or more intense, especially through long-term neglect or indifference.

Adventurous wives will find other adventurous wives or girlfriends but an adventurous husband will find other adventurous women. It is a natural progression when he is alone. Settled husbands are most likely to fulfill their economical responsibilities for the family and at times to a fault, where the pleasure principle is removed. The pleasure principle is the driving force for seeking immediate gratification of all needs, wants, and urges. ...but many times it is deferred in place of work.