The Civil Writer Magazine Emotional intelligence a term created by two researchers – Peter Salavoy and John Mayer – and popularized by Dan Goleman in his 1996 book of the same name. Emotional Intelligence, or emotional quotient (EQ), is defined as an individual's ability to identify, evaluate, control, and express emotions.

In practical terms, emotions can drive our behavior and impact people (positively and negatively), and learning how to manage those emotions – both our own and others – especially when we are under pressure. Religion and emotional intelligence can be agreeable over emotions but religion has a different endgame. Religion wants you to be emotionally connected for the sake of heaven but doesn't serve the same purpose as emotional intelligence and that is to manage self and others emotions. For religion and the control of emotions are not for the sake of self alone but to gain entrance into heaven. The real purpose emotional intelligence serves is to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships with others and with God judiciously and empathetically.