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IT'S EASY TO WORSHIP BUT MARRIAGE REQUIRES WORK 

The Civil Writer Magazine How do you go to church praying for economical wellbeing and the pursuit of happiness but for a marriage you come out as a divorce statistic. Blacks who do marry are more likely than whites and Hispanics to divorce after the first marriage and are less likely to remarry. Among blacks, 49 percent of first marriages ultimately end in divorce, compared with 41 percent for whites and 34 percent for Hispanics (Kreider and Ellis 2011). Among married individuals in 2009, 71 percent of whites had reached their tenth anniversary, while only 59 percent of blacks had.

The obvious question is, are whites with a God doing better than blacks with the same God. Are blacks so focused on worshipping to get to heaven that their marriages are going to hell. White marriages that don't go to church are doing better than than weekly church going Black marriages. For couples who regularly practice any combination of serious religious behaviors and attitudes enjoy significantly lower divorce rates. But that is not the case with Black marriages.

Black churches that encourages marriages and family growth, are doing nothing for marriages and family growth. The greatest cry-out in church is for your tithes than your matrimony. Even if you get a divorce the black church still expects you to tithe. How do you worship a Good God in a bad marriage. Is God good because he is helping you move on. Black Christians more often publicly display their religious faith than white Christians but their divorce numbers are worst. We have seen black athletes, actors, and musicians give glory to God after winning the Super Bowl, an Emmy, or an American Music Award. But their silence on marriage is as deafening as the church.