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THE SEVEN YEAR ITCH REQUIRES US TO SCRATCH EACH OTHER'S BACKS



The seven-year itch is a psychological term that suggests that happiness in a relationship declines around year seven of a marriage. But actually it is a 5 to 7 years cycle. The phrase has expanded to indicate cycles of dissatisfaction not only in interpersonal relationships but in any situation such as working a full-time job or buying a house, where a decrease in happiness and satisfaction is often seen over long periods of time.

Here's how the story goes: Every five to seven years (depending on who you are asking) you become essentially a new person physically, mentally, and socially because in that timeframe, every cell in your body has been replaced by a new cell. Friends have been added, material gains have taken place and the family gets larger. Marriages teeter on absolving because these complicated changes and new growth in the relationship. All because of your personal dissatisfaction with where you are in life or what's holding you back.

The itch comes from phases in life in the form of new burdens every 5 to seven years. How do you get around it? You cannot because it is a growth pattern in your relationship. You must recognize it in order to compensate for it every seven years. It doesn't go away because life continues to complicate things with needs. And here is the lesson learned, it doesn't stop because you left your partner because of this change and new found hardships, it picks up with a new partner with the same or new challenges or you can begin where you left off in the previous relationship. If you didn't accomplish anything in the past, at some point you will be confronted again regardless of who you are with.